Your inner self will always guide you towards expansion.
What this means is that you are always being nudged to become more of who you are — expressing your truest, entirely unique personality blueprint.
These nudges can come in a sheer endless variety of forms: it could be that you are listening to the radio or a podcast and some of what is being said really stands out to you, as if it was directed at you personally; it may be that you read something that triggers excitement in you; you may be seeing something your horse does that makes you question your way of perceiving him, and yourself; or you could just have a spontaneous insight popping into your head, seemingly out of nowhere.
In general, these nudges will ask you to change your being, in some way or form. And it can be scary to change because you never know for sure where the change, the New, is going to lead you. And it’s this fear of the New, which is the Unknown, that is so painful for many people that they rather stay where they are— even if they are not happy with how things are. But the pain associated with embracing the New is bigger than the fear of staying put in the same situation.
Is this good or bad? Well…
If you are never ready to step outside your comfort zone, you will not be able to grow spiritually.
People who are terrified of ever trying something different have very rigid egos that have been allowed to dominate their thinking, and therefore their feeling and doing. And while this kind of life may feel safer, it’s an illusion because change is inevitable and happening all the time whether we like it or not.
The key to feeling safe in your reality – which includes how you feel when you are with your horse – is not a particular horse training approach, or about the tool you may carry in your hand to keep your horse at bay or to direct or motivate him.
Instead, it’s an inside job.
If you expect that your horse is disrespectful and unsafe to be around, you will continually create scenarios where this belief is being reflected back to you. It will seem to be true, like a “fact”. Your horse will show behaviour to you that will make you always be on guard and possibly overreact because you feel threatened. This threat could be real or imagined but it doesn’t matter because to you it will be a confirmation — hence your defensive actions will seem justified. All of this can easily become a vicious circle where you will find your negative expectations to be met over and over and over again.
In your head, you will be hearing yourself say, “See! I knew this would happen! It’s always the same (no matter what I do)!”, or, “I hate that I always have to be prepared for the worst. I can never truly relax around him!”, or, “Why can’t she ever do what I tell her? Why does it always have to be so hard?”.
If, on the other hand, you accept that your horse will always respond to your energy and projections… well, this realisation can open the door to an entirely new world for you. A world full of potential! What you need to do is to change your thinking and experience a reality where your horse behaves differently. Remember:
You create your personal reality with the beliefs you carry within you, about virtually anything at all.
Don’t let your limiting beliefs about yourself and/or your horse become the reason for you to constantly struggle with your equine friend. Start to envision a reality where you are safe and you both have fun together!